
Chapter 9 of "Freedom of Simplicity" opens with these words: "While individual effort is good, it is always limited. There are things we can do together that we cannot possibly do alone." (pg. 174)
An empty-nest couple lives in my neighborhood. The husband had to have a difficult surgery on his foot, knowing it was going to take several months to heal and be back on his feet. As soon as he had the surgery, his wife fell and she, too, has been unable to walk for several months. Neither of them can fix meals, drive, shovel snow, or countless other daily activities. They have had to depend upon the love and care of neighbors, grown children, and friends to get through these long months. It has been quite a lesson in trust and dependence--as much as we like to think we are in control, times of dependence strip us of that illusion.
Dependence sometimes masquerades as weakness, as laziness, or as failure. But there are always times in our lives that we come to the end of ourselves and discover that we have needs we cannot fill on our own. This is how God designed us. This is why God provided a Savior. And if we never become aware of our need for God, how will we ever come to experience God's provisions for us?
On the other hand, God also created us to BE the provisions for another. There are times when I have had to ask someone if they would take care of my children for the weekend so I could either share ministry with the church or spend time with my husband to strengthen my marriage. Every time I have asked someone to fill this need, I have felt this great guilt, like I am asking too much, like I have to apologize for this huge request. And without exception, the people I have asked have felt honored and grateful for the opportunity to fill this need, and were thrilled to do it. When I really think about it, I would feel the same way if they asked me to fill a need for them. If we never allow others to help us, how will they ever be able to express the love that Christ desires them to share? If we never take the opportunity to help another, how can we practice the love that Christ has shown to us?
We must begin to understand that we were made to both give and receive. In our daily life. And in our life of faith.





